As I write this post, I am looking upon a city I was not sure I could love. To my right a dizzyingly beautiful castle that tourists around the world flock to & to my left the most magnificent sunset over the orange roofs of Heidelberg. The past week has been one of the hardest of my adult lives and I am sure I would not of survived it without the friendship of those around me and the constant counsel of my wearied parents. This week goes to show me that things happen fast, like in a day your whole world can be different. I was very stretched and stressed but God does do cool things in my life, I just have to have to right perspective to see them.
So where to begin, my frustrations: I recognize I am a runner, I run away from hard situations. I am not good at staying put and as Tom Petty puts it “she was an American girl, raised on promises, couldn’t help thinking that there was a better life somewhere else”. Although I hate to fit this stereotype its true, it really takes effort and energy to stay. I was ready to throw in the towel this past weekend, end my internship early and move onto the next opportunity. My housing situation was depressing me & I was getting restless once more; yet the thought of leaving the friends I had made and being afresh once more seemed so utterly tiring. Brainstorming a few things to reinvigorate my life gave me hope and possibility; yet as often happens your plan is superseded by another’s.
One thought was to try subleasing an apartment for my remaining month in town, being far away from the city and spending about 40-60 minutes on public transportation a day was beginning to be very taxing. My friend Sara had just moved and her flatmate was not moving in until September. Another girl I knew was leaving for the month of September and her flat was also potentially unoccupied. Many thoughts crossed my mind, from applying to Au Pairing situations to applying to PhD’s…I was just so utterly lost in what I should be doing next. All the while being kindly reminded by my parents that I am still a student and should really be focusing on finishing my dissertation by October.
Monday a surprising offer came my way, an extended contract at EMBL; throwing a complete ‘spanner in the works’ so to say. Well that offer seemed to alleviate much of the panic that was starting to set in about the unknown future; but was it the best decision for me or just the easiest? Yes I was learning lots but one of the reason I entered the library profession was because of the human interaction, I found the fact that I was often chained to my office doing menial tasks a bit soul crushing. I was contemplating a total career change from librarianship to something else, the idea of working in a university’s international office has been quite appealing to me for some time.
Being presented with this offer and needing to decide by Wednesday took total control of my thoughts for the next 48 hours. I also realize I stress about the small things, moving to a new country where I know no one & don’t have a place to live, no problem…deciding the next few months of my life sets me into panic mode. Is this the path I should be wandering down, should I be doing something else…I still do not know, but accepted the offer to stay until December. As my brother lovingly told me “it is easier to find a job when you have a job”.
Although I hem and haw over this period of my life “no feeling is finite” as my amazing new flatmate told me. I made the move into town to her attic apartment overlooking the castle & city just for a brief time; taking life one day at a time, with its highs and lows. Waking up in this amazing flat provided such clarity to what it is that I want in life. Her kindness also makes me wonder when the day will come when I can be the one to take in a vagabond 20something friend with my own apartment. I feel very far from being the adult I thought I would be at this point in my life, whilst also feeling very far away from the dreamer I once was. Where is the balance? Maybe my outlook at life is shifting or maybe I am just doing life wrong but it seems to be getting harder with every new decision I make.
My dream has always been to live in the UK extensively, but the legalistic side of it is such a burden. I know I could get a stable job in the US but every time I look at jobs in the US whether in Pittsburgh, Boston, San Francisco, Raleigh, or Denver none of them seem appealing to me. Maybe I am too idealistic, thinking I can make it in this big planet on my own. But if you shoot for the moon, you may land among the stars right? And sitting in this apartment sure feels like that at the moment 🙂 There are lessons to be learned from everyone you encounter and magic to be found in this so-called life, even if you occasionally fall flat on your face.